Personal development
"It doesn't matter whether you have created a needs profile for yourself or other people have created one for themselves and you reflect on and analyze it together: Everyone can draw interesting conclusions for themselves and thus learn to understand which buttons he or she has."
Reflecting the needs profile
You can simply pick up the Spectrum of Needs yourself, or use a simple online tool to create a needs profile that tells you more about your needs.
Diversity of your needs
Your needs are different - your buttons are sensitive in different ways. If you take a closer look at these, you can learn a lot about yourself, how you feel in certain situations or during certain activities and actively engage with them. Strong needs are those that are important to you. If they are satisfied, you feel good. If they are offended, the opposite happens - which can happen all the more frequently, especially with strong needs.
Your strong needs
These are things that are important to you. If they are fulfilled, you will be fine. But beware: they are also sensitive buttons. They are pressed more often.
They make you happy
If you want to make yourself happier, it can help to simply address these needs. The more different strategies you develop to do this, the more often you will succeed in satisfying these needs. You can make your life easier by addressing these strong needs when in doubt in order to improve your attitude to life. Make a conscious distinction between strategies that you use internally - i.e. purely through your thoughts - and those that are expressed externally through active actions and those in which you do something together with other people.
Your strong needs are also those in which other people can play a role in "making you happy". The better you know your needs, the better you can help other people to 'make you happy' by telling and showing them what you particularly like.
They make you unhappy
As easy as it is for you to satisfy yourself by addressing your strong needs, these areas are also very sensitive. There are sore spots here, as well as things that can make you angry if they are different from what you want. If your strong needs are not satisfied or are possibly neglected - either by your own doing or from outside - you will quickly become unhappy.
If a certain need is violated, it is likely that it is not the only one. As a result, various negative feelings arise that you find difficult to differentiate. And you may choose instinctive strategies of escape or attack to satisfy them.
When you have strong needs - especially if you have negative feelings - pay attention to the extent to which you are currently satisfying them sufficiently. And satisfy them - inwardly with the help of your thoughts, outwardly through your own actions or joint activities with others.
Since satisfying your strong needs makes you happy, it is likely that you will often choose strategies to achieve this. Pay attention to whether these needs and the strategies for satisfying them conflict with other needs and strategies. Both as far as you and other people are concerned.
In satisfying some needs, you may forget about other needs - both your own and those of others. Of course, this is not forbidden. But you should be aware of it so that you have the right strategies to hand quickly when internal or external conflicts arise.
Your weakly developed needs
There are things that are not really that important to you. But they are very important to other people. It can help to know the differences.
Willingness to compromise
The more people come together, the more diverse their needs are. The more intensively different people use different strategies to satisfy different needs, the more potential for conflict there is in the situation. This is where it pays to have strategies that only slightly affect others in order to satisfy your needs. Things that you do alone, for example - or even just in your mind.
You've heard the expression "putting your needs on the back burner". Of course you can't do that. But you can choose strategies that require fewer resources or are less restrictive of others' behavior. This is where your weak needs come into play. Here you have less demand to satisfy them and can therefore more easily forego strategies to satisfy them. It is therefore easier for you to take a step back here or possibly "do without" things without having to seriously pull yourself together.
It's good to know which needs are weak, as these are the areas where you are most willing to compromise. This can be helpful with issues such as finding the right job - and whenever you are around a lot of people.
Lack of strategies
As the fulfillment of these needs is not particularly important to you, you may have developed a smaller portfolio of possible strategies to satisfy them. The less pronounced needs are still there and also want to be satisfied. It is therefore possible that some of these needs are insufficiently satisfied, but you only have limited options for changing this.
In particular, if you have primarily "used" other people to satisfy them - i.e. you have not learned to satisfy them on your own or even internally - it can be difficult to find the right strategy if these needs have been given too little attention.
It is also possible that, since these needs are not particularly important to you, you may also pay too little attention to them in other people. Needs have different characteristics.
If someone tells you that you are not empathetic, inconsiderate or ignorant, this does not mean that you are. But you may not have recognized the other person's needs. Perhaps because these needs are simply not as pronounced in you.